Every year around this time we start to read articles on resolutions: how to create them, how to keep them, and how year after year we break them. I don't know of one person who has EVER kept a resolution all year long. I'm here to tell you how to never write another resolution and feel better about yourself by the end of the next year.
Resolutions don't work for so many reasons: we don't have any support, we try to take big steps in stead of small ones and we get overwhelmed, we don't see any change when we expect to and of course our fears step in and take over.
Try creating an intention this year. By creating an intention, you have an overall focal point for the year that you can return to again and again. For instance, this year I decided to be more compassionate to myself. There was no goal, there was just the solution: compassion was my solution to those times in my year when I beat myself up or felt bad. Ask yourself what you really want, what you really need. Your heart knows. Ask yourself over and over "What do I want? And if I had that, then what would I have? And then what would I have if I had that?" You'll find your answer in no time.
You can still use resolutions, but make them your action steps to support your intention. If you want to embrace life more, there are all kinds of ways to do that. You'll never get bored. And you can return again and again to your intention when you need a solution to a problem. For instance, if you're scared to go to a party because you're shy, you can remind yourself of your intention to embrace life and find a way to enjoy your soiree!
Using intentions rather than resolutions keeps you from beating yourself up if you fall back. You get to continually find ways to stay true to your intention and no matter what you do to support that intention you're still living in a more empowered way. So it doesn't matter that you missed the gym, you took a nice hot bath and slathered your skin with soothing lotion. You're still true to your intention!
The final part of keeping an intention is to acknowledge yourself: at the end of the year write down 100 ways you supported your intention. Get to a place where you feel good about all of the good things you did all year long. And you can keep that same intention next year or choose a new one!
Resolutions don't work for so many reasons: we don't have any support, we try to take big steps in stead of small ones and we get overwhelmed, we don't see any change when we expect to and of course our fears step in and take over.
Try creating an intention this year. By creating an intention, you have an overall focal point for the year that you can return to again and again. For instance, this year I decided to be more compassionate to myself. There was no goal, there was just the solution: compassion was my solution to those times in my year when I beat myself up or felt bad. Ask yourself what you really want, what you really need. Your heart knows. Ask yourself over and over "What do I want? And if I had that, then what would I have? And then what would I have if I had that?" You'll find your answer in no time.
You can still use resolutions, but make them your action steps to support your intention. If you want to embrace life more, there are all kinds of ways to do that. You'll never get bored. And you can return again and again to your intention when you need a solution to a problem. For instance, if you're scared to go to a party because you're shy, you can remind yourself of your intention to embrace life and find a way to enjoy your soiree!
Using intentions rather than resolutions keeps you from beating yourself up if you fall back. You get to continually find ways to stay true to your intention and no matter what you do to support that intention you're still living in a more empowered way. So it doesn't matter that you missed the gym, you took a nice hot bath and slathered your skin with soothing lotion. You're still true to your intention!
The final part of keeping an intention is to acknowledge yourself: at the end of the year write down 100 ways you supported your intention. Get to a place where you feel good about all of the good things you did all year long. And you can keep that same intention next year or choose a new one!
About the Author:
Jeanette Meierhofer, CFLC, is a Personal Life Coach. She invites you to take her mini-course on the mistakes people make in the self-help world. Get a totally unique version of this article from our article submission service
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