How many times have you created a New Year's Resolution only to drop it by January 14? Why put yourself through the pressure of beating yourself up and feeling bad? Ditch your New Year's Resolution and try a more empowering approach to bettering yourself in the new year.
Why don't resolutions work? For various reasons: we don't know how to hold ourselves accountable, our fears clock in and we quit, we don't see evidence of change fast enough and we quit, we don't start with small steps and get overwhelmed quickly. We don't have the proper support set in place.
Here's my solution to stopping the resolution downfall: Create a yearlong-intention. This is a heart-defined purpose and focus for the year. For instance, this year my intention was to just be. That's it. And I came back to it over and over all year long. When I was feeling overwhelmed, I remembered my intention to just be and it made everything more managable again. How do you get to an intention? Think about one thing you want (for instance: to eat healthier), then ask yourself "If I did this, what would I have" (if you ate healthier, what would you have?) Take that answer and ask yourself again "If I had this, what would I have?" (If I ate healthier, I would have more energy). Do this until you get to an answer that feels right to you (If I had more energy, I would have a greater appreciation of life. Having an appreciation for life would be your intention for the year).
Resolutions are the action steps that help you keep true to your intention. So if you want to feel more comfortable in your body, you get to come up with all kinds of ways you can feel comfortable in your body: from moving around (that can mean anything you want!) to getting more massages, to giving more hugs. You might even try some risky things like wearing that dress you've had your eye on even if other people might not like it on you. If it makes you feel comfortable in your body, go for it!
Intentions are flexible, it's very hard to fall back and not stick to them. As your year progresses, you'll find more and more ways to stay true to your intention. Don't worry, the Universe will provide them for you! No matter what you're doing to support your intention, you're still living in a better way!
At the end of the year, write out a list of 100 ways you stayed true to your intention. Feel proud of your accomplishments and next year create a new intention to live by or stick with the one you've had all year!
Why don't resolutions work? For various reasons: we don't know how to hold ourselves accountable, our fears clock in and we quit, we don't see evidence of change fast enough and we quit, we don't start with small steps and get overwhelmed quickly. We don't have the proper support set in place.
Here's my solution to stopping the resolution downfall: Create a yearlong-intention. This is a heart-defined purpose and focus for the year. For instance, this year my intention was to just be. That's it. And I came back to it over and over all year long. When I was feeling overwhelmed, I remembered my intention to just be and it made everything more managable again. How do you get to an intention? Think about one thing you want (for instance: to eat healthier), then ask yourself "If I did this, what would I have" (if you ate healthier, what would you have?) Take that answer and ask yourself again "If I had this, what would I have?" (If I ate healthier, I would have more energy). Do this until you get to an answer that feels right to you (If I had more energy, I would have a greater appreciation of life. Having an appreciation for life would be your intention for the year).
Resolutions are the action steps that help you keep true to your intention. So if you want to feel more comfortable in your body, you get to come up with all kinds of ways you can feel comfortable in your body: from moving around (that can mean anything you want!) to getting more massages, to giving more hugs. You might even try some risky things like wearing that dress you've had your eye on even if other people might not like it on you. If it makes you feel comfortable in your body, go for it!
Intentions are flexible, it's very hard to fall back and not stick to them. As your year progresses, you'll find more and more ways to stay true to your intention. Don't worry, the Universe will provide them for you! No matter what you're doing to support your intention, you're still living in a better way!
At the end of the year, write out a list of 100 ways you stayed true to your intention. Feel proud of your accomplishments and next year create a new intention to live by or stick with the one you've had all year!
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About the author: Jeanette Meierhofer, CFLC, is a Personal Coach. She offers free tips on personal growth in her mini course on The 6 Mistakes People Make in the Self Help World. Get a totally unique version of this article from our article submission service
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