If you are hoping to win back your ex, you will have to handle it very delicately. It's important to know that her feelings and yours are hurting and that they still are, even if you're feeling OK right now. Great care must be taken so that you can avoid triggering the arguments that caused you to break apart.
Here are some suggestions:
It really helps to reflect on the reason for the breakup and whether changes are possible that will improve your relationship. Can you do anything to guarantee that further breakups will not occur in the future? Compromise will certainly be needed. Will it be possible for you to live with them? Will she accept them? Knowing why the breakup happened will help you to avoid triggering the usual conflicts when you first try to get her back.
Two requirements will be essential that tend to be contradictory. On the one hand, it's very important that you maintain contact with her. On the other, you cannot get too aggressive since this may drive her further away. In fact, contact should be allowed to cool off some but not terminated.
You'll have to make it known in a subtle way that you want to be in her life. Your communication should come across as relaxed, easy going, and not overdone. Send the occasional "what's up?" email but don't fill up her inbox because it will give her the wrong impression.
Find innocent and safe ways that demonstrate that she is still in your thoughts. Show her that she matters to you by remembering the important dates in her life such as anniversaries. Send a card on her birthday and on holidays.
It's important not to allow yourself to be cut off from the world. Enjoy your other friendships and maintain a social life. This will help you to stay upbeat and confident. Your ex must never get the impression that you are falling apart over the break up.
Show her that you are alright but that she still matters to you. This permits her to reevaluate the relationship that you've shared together without her feeling pressured.
Then you will have to make an effort to be her friend again. This will remind her of the enjoyable things that you shared together and build trust. With time, this trust will grow stronger and bring the two of you closer together.
There is no exact formula to winning back your girlfriend but these suggestions will steer you in the right direction. Maintaining contact with her is important but it's a balancing act that should be done subtly. Go too far and she may get scared away.
Here are some suggestions:
It really helps to reflect on the reason for the breakup and whether changes are possible that will improve your relationship. Can you do anything to guarantee that further breakups will not occur in the future? Compromise will certainly be needed. Will it be possible for you to live with them? Will she accept them? Knowing why the breakup happened will help you to avoid triggering the usual conflicts when you first try to get her back.
Two requirements will be essential that tend to be contradictory. On the one hand, it's very important that you maintain contact with her. On the other, you cannot get too aggressive since this may drive her further away. In fact, contact should be allowed to cool off some but not terminated.
You'll have to make it known in a subtle way that you want to be in her life. Your communication should come across as relaxed, easy going, and not overdone. Send the occasional "what's up?" email but don't fill up her inbox because it will give her the wrong impression.
Find innocent and safe ways that demonstrate that she is still in your thoughts. Show her that she matters to you by remembering the important dates in her life such as anniversaries. Send a card on her birthday and on holidays.
It's important not to allow yourself to be cut off from the world. Enjoy your other friendships and maintain a social life. This will help you to stay upbeat and confident. Your ex must never get the impression that you are falling apart over the break up.
Show her that you are alright but that she still matters to you. This permits her to reevaluate the relationship that you've shared together without her feeling pressured.
Then you will have to make an effort to be her friend again. This will remind her of the enjoyable things that you shared together and build trust. With time, this trust will grow stronger and bring the two of you closer together.
There is no exact formula to winning back your girlfriend but these suggestions will steer you in the right direction. Maintaining contact with her is important but it's a balancing act that should be done subtly. Go too far and she may get scared away.
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