Pain is felt in the body in the present. All pain is felt today. You cannot physically feel something yesterday or tomorrow. You can remember the pain of the past, and anticipate a pain in the future, but you can only feel pain in the present.
Emotional pain felt in your body can be shown on a pain time-line. Stress describes any negative emotion that you feel in your body. Every emotion is felt by individuals at a particular level of intensity; low, medium or high. Hurt is a negative emotion that you feel in the present. Anger or resentment is a feeling generated from memory of something in the past and anxiety from a situation you think may happen in the future. All emotional pain adds to your store of stress.
Negative emotion accumulates in the body and feels like emotional constipation. The more intensely you feel a negative emotion the greater your stress level.
In his book, "Ageless Body, Timeless Mind", Deepak Chopra describes the cycle of emotions. He explains that when the brain has a cognitive appraisal only two impulses are aroused - pain or pleasure. "We all want to avoid pain and experience pleasure. Therefore, all the complicated emotional states we find ourselves in are because we are unable to obey these basic drives."
Chopra describes the cycle of emotions, beginning in present reality (where only pain and pleasure are felt) and ending in complex emotions centred exclusively in perceived reality (such as anxiety, guilt and depression). The cycle that is repeated over and over in our lives is as follows:
* Pain in the present is experienced as hurt.
* Pain in the past is remembered as anger.
* Pain in the future is perceived as anxiety - a lessening of mental relaxation, associated to the alert reaction.
* Unexpressed anger - redirected against yourself and held within - is called guilt.
* The depletion of energy that occurs when anger is redirected inward creates depression.
The cycle of emotion explains why stored hurt is something we all experience to some degree. It is this stored hurt that is responsible for emotional constipation. Chopra writes, "Buried hurt disguises itself as anger, anxiety, guilt, and depression." In order to live in the present we must learn to avoid the easy emotion of anger and confront other hurts that are more difficult to deal with. Unresolved anger simply gets worse, feeding on itself.
Sometimes you can cause another person pain by what you do or say. This external event may be intentional or unintentional, and may also create a pain for you; guilt, remorse, shame, and regret - that is, stress. For example, people who use ineffective communication often drag up "history" in arguments to hurt their partner. Their perception is that their partner has hurt them or is "blaming" them in some way. They are using a conditioned response to ease their own pain felt in the present, not realizing the physiological impact their behavior is having on their own body.
Emotional constipation - emotional distress - is "dis-ease"; an illness of how you think. You are what you think. How you feel depends on how you think. The pain time-line helps you understand your emotional constipation and the physiological impact of negative emotions felt in your body.
Emotional pain felt in your body can be shown on a pain time-line. Stress describes any negative emotion that you feel in your body. Every emotion is felt by individuals at a particular level of intensity; low, medium or high. Hurt is a negative emotion that you feel in the present. Anger or resentment is a feeling generated from memory of something in the past and anxiety from a situation you think may happen in the future. All emotional pain adds to your store of stress.
Negative emotion accumulates in the body and feels like emotional constipation. The more intensely you feel a negative emotion the greater your stress level.
In his book, "Ageless Body, Timeless Mind", Deepak Chopra describes the cycle of emotions. He explains that when the brain has a cognitive appraisal only two impulses are aroused - pain or pleasure. "We all want to avoid pain and experience pleasure. Therefore, all the complicated emotional states we find ourselves in are because we are unable to obey these basic drives."
Chopra describes the cycle of emotions, beginning in present reality (where only pain and pleasure are felt) and ending in complex emotions centred exclusively in perceived reality (such as anxiety, guilt and depression). The cycle that is repeated over and over in our lives is as follows:
* Pain in the present is experienced as hurt.
* Pain in the past is remembered as anger.
* Pain in the future is perceived as anxiety - a lessening of mental relaxation, associated to the alert reaction.
* Unexpressed anger - redirected against yourself and held within - is called guilt.
* The depletion of energy that occurs when anger is redirected inward creates depression.
The cycle of emotion explains why stored hurt is something we all experience to some degree. It is this stored hurt that is responsible for emotional constipation. Chopra writes, "Buried hurt disguises itself as anger, anxiety, guilt, and depression." In order to live in the present we must learn to avoid the easy emotion of anger and confront other hurts that are more difficult to deal with. Unresolved anger simply gets worse, feeding on itself.
Sometimes you can cause another person pain by what you do or say. This external event may be intentional or unintentional, and may also create a pain for you; guilt, remorse, shame, and regret - that is, stress. For example, people who use ineffective communication often drag up "history" in arguments to hurt their partner. Their perception is that their partner has hurt them or is "blaming" them in some way. They are using a conditioned response to ease their own pain felt in the present, not realizing the physiological impact their behavior is having on their own body.
Emotional constipation - emotional distress - is "dis-ease"; an illness of how you think. You are what you think. How you feel depends on how you think. The pain time-line helps you understand your emotional constipation and the physiological impact of negative emotions felt in your body.
About the Author:
More expert advice on recognizing the emotion cycle, dealing with feelings of anxiety and emotional constipation is available from Karen Gosling's website, which is all about surviving emotional pain.
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