This question isn't a new one; for as long as people have lived on earth, it's been around. Many great philosophers throughout history have spent time looking at what holds us back - at that part of our psyche that stops us from achieving a great life.
It's a basic instinct that keeps us safe. Referred to as many things over the years - it's what you and I know as fear. You've probably heard of the 'fight or flight' reaction, an essential tool for the early human race. At its simplest level, it's what makes us jump when someone says BOO!
We all have a comfort zone and when we step out of it, or danger comes into it, we experience an adrenaline rush enabling us to fight or run away. Our natural default setting is to run and get back into our comfort zone as quickly as possible. We log the experience in our brain as it was very uncomfortable and programme ourselves not to do it again.
Most fear is imaginary - we don't really have to worry about being eaten by sabre tooth tigers in this day and age. F.E.A.R = False Evidence Appearing Real. We're great at thinking about the worst that could happen, even though most of the time it never does. Conversely, we don't spend enough time thinking about the best that could happen, yet evidence shows that those who do vividly imagine their success are much more likely to get it.
Society has been encouraging fear for years. Ruling leaders, both political and religious, have used fear as a tool to keep control over the ages, keeping society in line. When you were little, your mum probably used it on more than one occasion! The truth is, we have a choice - between feeling the fear and do it anyway, or whimpering back and staying average.
If you want to change some things in your life you have to change some things in your life - that might sound ridiculous, but in fact what it's really saying is no problem can be solved with the same level of thinking that caused it. Any improvement you want to make will involve change.
Anything big enough to make a worthwhile change will inevitably involve doing something different and taking you out of your comfort zone, so it stands to reason you'll feel uncomfortable about the action needed. People who stay average resist change because 'it didn't feel right'. People who move on know they'll feel uncomfortable but push through the feeling and do it anyway.
By making small changes that are outside your comfort zone, that zone gradually gets larger as you start to build up your confidence. Make a list of the positives and negatives of anything you do - looking objectively at something helps you to break down your fear.
Don't let your fears and doubts deny you the good things in life. William Shakespeare said, "Our doubts are traitors, and make us lose the good we oft might win, by fearing to attempt.
It's a basic instinct that keeps us safe. Referred to as many things over the years - it's what you and I know as fear. You've probably heard of the 'fight or flight' reaction, an essential tool for the early human race. At its simplest level, it's what makes us jump when someone says BOO!
We all have a comfort zone and when we step out of it, or danger comes into it, we experience an adrenaline rush enabling us to fight or run away. Our natural default setting is to run and get back into our comfort zone as quickly as possible. We log the experience in our brain as it was very uncomfortable and programme ourselves not to do it again.
Most fear is imaginary - we don't really have to worry about being eaten by sabre tooth tigers in this day and age. F.E.A.R = False Evidence Appearing Real. We're great at thinking about the worst that could happen, even though most of the time it never does. Conversely, we don't spend enough time thinking about the best that could happen, yet evidence shows that those who do vividly imagine their success are much more likely to get it.
Society has been encouraging fear for years. Ruling leaders, both political and religious, have used fear as a tool to keep control over the ages, keeping society in line. When you were little, your mum probably used it on more than one occasion! The truth is, we have a choice - between feeling the fear and do it anyway, or whimpering back and staying average.
If you want to change some things in your life you have to change some things in your life - that might sound ridiculous, but in fact what it's really saying is no problem can be solved with the same level of thinking that caused it. Any improvement you want to make will involve change.
Anything big enough to make a worthwhile change will inevitably involve doing something different and taking you out of your comfort zone, so it stands to reason you'll feel uncomfortable about the action needed. People who stay average resist change because 'it didn't feel right'. People who move on know they'll feel uncomfortable but push through the feeling and do it anyway.
By making small changes that are outside your comfort zone, that zone gradually gets larger as you start to build up your confidence. Make a list of the positives and negatives of anything you do - looking objectively at something helps you to break down your fear.
Don't let your fears and doubts deny you the good things in life. William Shakespeare said, "Our doubts are traitors, and make us lose the good we oft might win, by fearing to attempt.
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The author: Scott Edwards life has been in IT for 3 Decades. He now advises on training and accreditation. For advice on Computer Training, visit LearningLolly IT Courses.
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