You have gotten through the early years of childhood, both of you intact. Now, instead of worrying about potty training or choking hazards, you can celebrate. You made it through.
Not quite. Thank your lucky stars that at least now you are getting a full night of sleep every night, because you are going to need it to cope with the road ahead. Just when you thought the tough part was behind you, it is only now just beginning but here are some basics to help get you through it all.
Defiance is something that they use to test the waters and learn the ropes, so expect it and don’t take it personally, it is a normal part of the process and will wear off in a few years. Stay calm. This is the best way to deal with a teen especially when they are upset. Talk slowly and use active listening to keep them on track.
Don’t be afraid to ask questions and get answers, the don’t ask don’t tell policy doesn’t work real well. Ignoring things or avoiding subjects that are uncomfortable for you is not a good way to parent. You need to deal with the issues head on and the more you know the better equipped you will be to handle your child and the problems that may come up.
Remember, most importantly, you are not their friend. If your teen didn't need someone to care for them and guide them, you could be a friend. But, they need guidance and your support, even when no isn't the answer they want to hear. Be brave and firm, keeping your cool, even when they try to guilt you.
Not quite. Thank your lucky stars that at least now you are getting a full night of sleep every night, because you are going to need it to cope with the road ahead. Just when you thought the tough part was behind you, it is only now just beginning but here are some basics to help get you through it all.
Defiance is something that they use to test the waters and learn the ropes, so expect it and don’t take it personally, it is a normal part of the process and will wear off in a few years. Stay calm. This is the best way to deal with a teen especially when they are upset. Talk slowly and use active listening to keep them on track.
Don’t be afraid to ask questions and get answers, the don’t ask don’t tell policy doesn’t work real well. Ignoring things or avoiding subjects that are uncomfortable for you is not a good way to parent. You need to deal with the issues head on and the more you know the better equipped you will be to handle your child and the problems that may come up.
Remember, most importantly, you are not their friend. If your teen didn't need someone to care for them and guide them, you could be a friend. But, they need guidance and your support, even when no isn't the answer they want to hear. Be brave and firm, keeping your cool, even when they try to guilt you.
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